Over the last few years I have struggled on and off with anxiety and depression. I attribute these issues to a number of things; a combination of personality, life situation, genetics, identity issues, stress, and basically coping with growing up! It all sounds so grave and serious, but I really believe now after all my experiences, that it is actually very normal, and well,
common. More than you would think at first glance. I think everyone goes through these problems to some degree at some point in their lives. But because we are all so different, it manifests differently in us all. A very wise and helpful person told me once that "depression is the common cold of the brain. " That is exactly what it is.
Anyway, I have come a long way and learned much through all this, and have been doing excellently for more than a year. However I have never been able to quite capture the wonderful feeling of living that I used to enjoy in my youth. Up until I was about 23, I considered myself the happiest of happy people. Nothing had ever broken me. I was idealistic, naive, but almost euphoric. Then the responsibilities of adulthood started to crush my spirit. Or rather, I
allowed them to. This was around the time after I graduated from university, when the pressures of earning money began to increase. I had very high hopes and ambitions of being perfect at my job, buying a house, (which we did at a young age), having a family, and indulging in all the endeavors that I was interested in. Basically, there was nothing that I would accept 'no' to. I wanted it all. If it was unrealistic I would find a way to get it. Gradually the fulfillment of my goals began to take over my enjoyment of the present, and I felt like I was stuck on a treadmill of working. Mind you, a lot of it was
fun work, but because I was so often caught up in planning my next project, I didn't take pleasure in what I was doing at the time. I always did an excellent job at what I was doing, but everything became about efficiency and 'not wasting time'. This turned into quite a nasty habit. I understand that to some or many of you this may not sound like a problem at all. But if you are always focused only on the final result, you will never be satisfied. I am still struggling with this but lately I have made some headway.
I am reading the Power of Now by
Eckhart Tolle, and I am starting to think differently at times. I realized while reading, that what he was talking about in the book was more along the lines of how I used to feel as a child and teenager. Surely if I had it before I can get it back again! I hope:-) I was starting to think that the rather dull, often insatiable feeling of everyday monotony was just the feeling of being a functional adult. It very well may be, for many of us. But I don't think it has to be. And I think I used to know this, I just forgot. :-)
Anyway, read the book, and decide for yourself.